1. Recognize up-front that your hot button is love, or acceptance or respect.
2. Acknowledge that the only way to achieve the above is to give without wanting in return.
3. This is only possible when you acknowledge that feedback might not come back straight away but that it ultimately has no choice but to come back to you.
4. If your life is not working for you it is simply because deep down inside you are still expecting something in return.
5. Start by focusing entirely on the other person’s needs.
6. Immediately make allowances for that other person such as:
“They might have just lost someone that they love”
“They might never have received love from their parents”
“Their parents might not have been equipped to teach them better”
“They might have been abused”
This will help you to feel more compassionate.
7. Ask yourself what you can do to make that person’s day a little happier.
8. Ask yourself what skills you can develop in order to better serve those around you.
9. Plan time to read up on or study information that will make you more valuable to others.
From: Alan Chazen
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